Dear Anne: My sister “Kendra” and I are not very close and only communicate two to three times a year, mostly via email. Kendra sold her house and moved out of state. I heard through our brother that she put her house up in value initially and had to lower her price in the end, but made a decent amount. I never commented on how much she was earning or not earning on her old house; I felt like it was absolutely none of my business. When she moved out and posted pictures of her new home, I said I was happy for her.

Fast forward to selling my house about a year later. After my house was sold, information about it was leaked to the various housing sites, falsely showing that it had suffered a loss. In fact, we made a good profit on it. The information that came out was a typo and was corrected about four weeks later.

Kendra was quick to contact us in an email stating that she had seen online how much we had sold and was surprised at the extreme loss of money we had suffered. She then asked if it was a short sale or a foreclosure and said we must be very upset about it.

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I feel like it was none of his business, even though it was the right information. Am I overreacting thinking it was pretty rude of him to comment on my personal affairs? How to answer him? — Perplexed

Dear puzzled: It’s never polite to comment on someone’s finances, especially if you’re making a negative comment, like your sister did. The way you reacted to the sale of her house – congratulating her and avoiding meddling in her personal finances – was perfect.

To give Kendra the benefit of the doubt, it’s possible she was just surprised and reacted impulsively, or maybe she was curious, or maybe she missed you and was using this as an excuse to get in touch. Whatever her reason, let her know about the corrected typo in your reply, and then change the subject. Ask her about one of her hobbies or a trip she recently took. this should make it clear that your bank account isn’t fair game for a conversation starter.

Dear Anne: I was hoping to answer a recent question from “No One Special”, the woman whose husband and kids did nothing for her on her birthday or Mother’s Dayeven though she works hard to make sure their birthdays are special.

I agree that she should have a serious discussion with her spouse, but since he hasn’t responded positively in the past, she might want to take a different approach.

She can’t force him to change, but she can do something special for herself. On her birthday and Mother’s Day, she could treat herself to something she loves to do — a pedicure, dinner in a good restaurant, etc. Maybe she has a friend who could share the day with her.

It’s not the same as having a loved one recognize you, but sometimes we just have to take care of ourselves. It seems that this charming person certainly deserves it. — Make the most of things

And if she’s looking for a good laugh, the “Saturday Night Live” skit with Kristen Wiig titled “Christmas Morning” is about that same situation, which seems to be nearly universal for moms. It’s worth a watch! — Make the most of things

Dear doing the maximum: What a good idea! “No One Special” deserves to be pampered on special occasions, even if it means doing it herself. And who knows, maybe in time her husband and kids will follow her lead and start planning celebrations for her too.