If the “rules” of money seem completely detached from your reality, know this: the average American doesn’t come close to following most popular money rules. And that’s okay.
“If you treat ‘rules of thumb’ as hard and fast, you’re setting yourself up for frustration,” says William O’Donnell, president of Heartland Financial Solutions in Bellevue, Nebraska. “What people tend to forget is that the guidelines are flexible because everyone’s situation is different.”
What’s important is to get your spending under control and develop a spending plan that’s right for you, not an ideal plan. Here’s how to see money rules of thumb in the context of your own personal financial reality.
THE RULE: Divide your budget into needs (50%), wants (30%) and savings (20%).
THE FACT: Housing alone can easily eat up half of your take home pay.
The 50/30/20 rule is a popular budgeting framework that divides after-tax income into three brackets: needs, wants, and savings. But mandatory spending can blow that budget out before you even get started.
In 2020, for example, 23% of US renters spent half or more of their income on rent alone, according to the most recent data available from the US Census Bureau. Add to that other needs—utilities, groceries, transportation, insurance, childcare, and debt repayment—and there’s little, if any, left over for needs or savings.
Don’t cut your budget if the buckets aren’t working. Instead, take the principle and tweak the framework to suit your current financial situation with an eye on where you’d like to be in the long run. Sure, it might be more of an 85/10/5 budget now, but over time you can get closer to your ideal balance.
Simply tracking all your expenses is a good start; you’ll see where every dollar is going and be able to make more informed decisions about your spending.
THE RULE: Don’t spend more than 7% of your household income on child care.
THE FACT: Most families spend 20% or more on child care.
The US Department of Health and Human Services considers spending more than 7% of your annual household income on childcare to be unaffordable.
But a whopping 51% of parents spend more than 20%, according to a 2022 survey from Care.com, which polled more than 3,000 parents paying for childcare.
There’s little you can do to drastically reduce child care costs, but discounts and scholarships may be available, depending on your state and child care situation.
A flexible spending account for dependents is another option. If offered by your employer, you can contribute up to $5,000 before taxes and use the funds to help pay for a nanny, daycare, after-school care, and summer camp registration, among other things. .
THE RULE: You need a 20% down payment to buy a house.
THE FACT: First-time home buyers typically put down about 7% down, according to data from the National Association of Realtors.
The 20% down payment “rule” is outdated, says Jessica Lautz, vice president of demographics and behavioral insights at the National Association of Realtors.
Yes, lenders once required such a large down payment, but they now rely on private mortgage insurance, or PMI, to mitigate their own risk, passing the cost on to borrowers.
According to Genworth Mortgage Insurance, Ginnie Mae and the Urban Institute, homebuyers who put less than 20% down pay an average of 0.58% to 1.86% of the original loan amount per year for PMI. This can add hundreds of dollars to your monthly mortgage payment.
Investing more money upfront reduces the monthly and overall cost of your mortgage, but draining your savings to buy a home can leave you on a rocky financial footing.
According to a 2020 survey by The Harris Poll for NerdWallet, about 3 in 10 homeowners (29%) no longer felt financially secure after buying their current home. This sentiment was most acute among younger homeowners, with 42% of Gen Y homeowners and 54% of Gen Z homeowners feeling financially insecure after buying their home, compared to 31% of Gen Xers and 16% of baby boomer owners.
A mortgage broker can run the numbers to help you determine the sweet spot for your down payment, but you also need to ask yourself a few questions, Lautz says.
“Do you need savings to renovate once you’re in the house, or reserve savings for other expenses?” she says. “Would a lower monthly mortgage payment be easier on other monthly expenses like student debt or child care?”
NerdWallet: Budgeting 101: How to Budget Money https://bit.ly/nerdwallet-finance-how-to-budget-money
ChildCare.gov: See resources for your state https://childcare.gov/state-resources-home
Surveys for NerdWallet’s 2020 Homebuyer Report were conducted online in the United States by The Harris Poll on behalf of NerdWallet from January 6-8, 2020, among 2,007 American adults aged 18 and older .